The idea of punishment has no place in an adult to adult relationship between two equal partners, no matter what other dynamics exist between them on the pleasure and sexual level.
Language confuses things. People cannot own people in today’s world. But some people find fulfillment in giving up their responsibility for self. These people seem to find comfort in using the word ‘owned’ when talking about such relationships.
Trust is something that one person extends to another. The person who does so is using personal power. But doing so means being courageous since extending trust means taking a risk.
A powerful lady teaches me something about what it is to truly respect the needs of your partner, not overriding them with your own